We all want friends – the more the merrier, right!?
Maybe … I suppose.
Somehow, it seems to have become a game of who can get the most friends on internet
sites … when, in fact, these people can’t really be classified as friends, can they?
I know people that have tons of friends … one even has well over 4,000 friends.
She’s good with that – enjoys posting pictures of herself and her body and accepts all friendships and conversations. She’s also monogamous with her Master and no one ever knows anything more about her than the pictures.
That (adding friends just to add them) doesn’t sit too well with me personally and I wouldn’t normally have friends that do that. However, I’ve known her looooong before she did this (like almost 10 years long) and consider her a friend … what she enjoys doesn’t have to align with what I enjoy – she adds value to my life when we get the moments here and there to chat and that’s all I require in order to have her as a friend.
That’s what I do and that is how I think:
If you add value to my life – in a small or large way – you are a friend. If you don’t, then you aren’t.
When I get a friend’s request from someone that doesn’t appear familiar, I understand it could be from someone I chat with on another site and they might have different nics – or it might be from someone I met at a munch and we used first names – or it might be a request from a stranger … no matter the reason, if I don’t know who they are, I always look at their profile. Their kinks. The groups they belong to and so on.
But it’s not just their profile but their list of friends.
How many friends do they have? What’s the percentage of female friends? Is there diversity or are they close-minded to certain genders?
Want to weed out the trolls?
Head to their list of friends and, if they have 99% girls (probably in their 20’s or younger – but not always), then your troll alert should be sounding – loudly.
When I look through friends list and I see diversity then I know they aren’t judgemental, they keep their minds open and probably have a better attitude because diversity can open up to so much more understanding.
But, if you haven’t heard it before, here it is again: Trolls are getting smarter and we need to be more aware of the things we can do to help us weed them out.
on some sites, you can have your pictures only viewable to friends and, if you add them willy-nilly, they have access to pictures you kept from the general public and, no matter what the site says about not being able to copy pictures, where there is a will, there is a way
In our current world, instant gratification has become the norm but, if you don’t take the time to find out about them, you might be opening yourself up to them finding out about you – more than you want them to know.
You might, also, be turning off others who are interested in you because we’re an assuming group of people – no matter how exalted we try to make ourselves out to be.
I hope I’m getting it across to you that you are what your profile represents … & Not many want to be another notch on a well-worn bedpost, dont’cha know?
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