This was by far the hardest topic for me because just about every one of them has varying meanings but I’m going to give it a try with the disclaimer that the following are – in no way, shape, or form – perfect or exact in nature.
Every relationship can change the meaning to suit them and goes hand in hand with my post on labels
Dominant / Domme: male / female version of someone who controls a submissive
Switch: Male or female that enjoys both sides of the fence
Submissive: Male or female who is controlled by the dominant but does not give up full control (has some say in matters that were previously agreed on OR they do not give up control 24/7
Master / Mistress: Male / female dominant with full control over their slave – title is given to them by the community/earned.
Slave: Gives up full control and only has the rights given to them by their owner.
Kajira / kajirus: Female/male … Those who are a slave in the Gorean sense – a philosophy by the author of the Gor books, John Norman, where the Master/slave is more of a sexual relation (this can, like all dynamics, vary).
Top / Bottom: They negotiate a scene, play together for a scene, and then go their separate ways.
Sadist / Masochist / Sadomasochist: Gives pain/ takes pain /enjoys both.
Kinkster: Someone that enjoys things that aren’t considered “in the norm” – usually involving sexual activities but can be anything that is different than ‘vanilla’.
Fetishist: Someone who has a huge obsession with something that turns them on sexually (feet, nylons, kilts).
Exhibitionist / Voyeur: Enjoys being watched/enjoys watching.
Sensualist: Are not into pain – rather more of a sensual/sexual aspects of BDSM.
Princess: A female that is spoiled – just not a spoiled brat.
Slut: Enjoys being used sexually – not just by their owner.
Doll: Is placed in dresses and makeup which resemble a doll-like appearance and exhibits those behaviors as well.
Sissy: A male that is made to dress and behave as a female which is normally in the extreme.
Rigger: A person (male or female) that enjoys bondage/suspension – mainly with rope.
Rope top: Someone who ties up another, normally with rope – can be very complicated and/or beautiful.
Rope bottom / Rope bunny: Someone tied up, usually with rope while a ‘bunny’ is someone who models the final product.
Spanko: Enjoys spanking or being spanked to the point of a fetish.
Spanker: someone who spanks another.
spankee: someone who enjoys being spanked by others.
Leather Family: A group of people of various definitions (daddy, dom, sub, bottom, etc) that define themselves as a family unit.
Bootblack: Someone that shines and takes care of boots. Can include other leather goods.
Primal / Primal predator / prey: can be the type of play or the behavior used in play.
Bull: Can be construed as a male that has sex or services the female when she is in a different relationship.
Cuckold / cuckqueen: The husband or wife that enjoys infidelity from their spouse. Might watch their spouse engaged in sex with someone.
Age player / Daddy / Mommy / Big / little / baby girl /boy: Enjoys being a person of a juvenile age and being treated as such. Some enjoy the incestuous aspects of such a relationship while others who identify as such are greatly disturbed by this type of behavior.
Brat: Can understand where the line is and cross it anyway. They might consider themselves as someone who keeps another on their toes.
Pet / kitten / pony / pup: Identifies as such and enjoys being treated as the animal they chose. The difference between this and furry is that they do not identify as an animal on a 24/7 basis.
With the understanding that I tried to keep this simple, let me know what you think or would love to add to this list or to the definitions.
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